Five things I have learned in my 29 years of life

let go of the past

Wow, I cannot believe it; the time is here I am surely approaching 30 because March is my birthday month. I was so nervous last year at the thought of turning the big three zero, but now I am calmer and happier.

I think 30 is an amazing age because you are at that stage where you are content with yourself and you are no longer seeking assurance from friends. Here are the top five things I have learned in my 29 years of life;

1.Let go of the past because it holds you back, could be the matter of the one that got away. If they really felt the way you feel about them, you would be with them otherwise let it go because it is not worth it.

2. Stop being angry, I have been so angry all my life, especially with my father for the hurt he inflicted on me, my siblings and my mother. I am not angry anymore and I have learned to be happy with me.

3. Be Content, this also comes with age too, I grew up wanting material things from brand clothing and all the status the luxury goods bring you. Now I just don’t care as long as I look good in what I am wearing I am content. I am not saying don’t dream to have premium brands, but don’t let it be an obsession.

4.Love and laugh, it does not have to be love between a man and a woman any kind of love and the most love I have come to appreciate is the love my daughter has for me truly unconditional (children are the best lovers) and laughter is everything stop stressing like there is no tomorrow seriously when your having a bad day get home and watch comedy that is what I do my favorite comedies are 2 Broke Girls, Two and a half man, Last man standing and The Big Bang theory. Just laugh, it will make you happy.

5. Experience Food, I love food, especially trying out food from other cultures, it makes me happy. Tasting a variety of foods, it’s truly an amazing experience. I remember tasting Chinese food for the first time it took my taste buds on a journey of discovery. I promised myself to try SUSHI on my birthday and I will.

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Clinique Anti-Blemish Solutions

Clinique Anti Blemish Solutions

So my sister Dimakatso she is visiting and I noticed how her skin was smooth and her acne has cleared and I nagged asking what she was using because she has oily skin and believe I have seen her home remedies to last me a lifetime. So I interviewed her about the Clinque Anti-Blemish Solutions range I saw in her toiletry bag.

Why did you choose the Clinique Anti Blemish Solutions?

It is because I tried every product and even home remedies for my skin acne (pimples) and they only work for a week, then it is back to square one, my aunt is using Clinique so I saw how her skin it was improving and even looking younger. I love it

How do the products feel on your skin?

The soap= it makes my face feel free from oil and it dries up the blackheads
Toner= it makes my skin feel lighter and fresh and soft.
Moisturizer=makes my skin feels soft and clear.

How has your skin improved since using the Clinique Anti Blemish Solutions?

It has improved a lot I don’t have too much pimples like before and am not afraid to look at myself in a mirror anymore. Now I should work on my dark spots.

Would you recommend this combo for people with oily skin?

Definitely, I have already recommended it to my friends because I am so much happier with the results.

Will you continue buying the Clinique Anti Blemish Solutions?

Yes until my skin clear and smooth like a baby and I will never stop using it

So how are you finding the samples you received with your purchase and what did you get?
They are nice love the toiletry bag the mascara works for me very well, I can’t wait to use others when my skin is completely clear. I also received pink blush and Superdenfense SPF20 moisturizer.

Where did you buy the Clinque Anti Blemish Solutions Range and how much was it? Edgars Kerk Street in Johannesburg CBD and it was R 700.00


Suicide is not the answer


Suicide horror for poor student this headline brought back memories buried deep in my mind and I must say suicide is not the answer even when things are so dark to the point of no hope. I have been there you know that pitch black bottomless pit where everything got worse each day.

There was a time when I tried to commit suicide and my mother found me and she told me not to make my enemies happy. I just could not take it anymore, I was my father’s punching bag never understood why he hated me, but he had his own demons, I realized by him abusing my mother and my siblings it was to make himself feel better about himself.

I didn’t not grow up in a happy home, there was a time when I had only one short and T-shirt nothing else at night I would wash them and hang them for the next day it was tough and not because we were poor, but because my father was a people pleaser, he took money and spent on friends and women, money I slaved away making selling in our shop every day before and after school.

I remember going to school with only transport money, nothing to eat, try learning with an empty stomach, it’s not easy and I got my university entrance in materials and I could not fulfill my dreams of attending Wits University because there was no money things were not going well for me, finally got to college and the last year was the hardest not having money to buy text books even to make a photocopy so I had to write the notes out and my results dropped that year but I did not give.Hope of having a better, richer life kept me going so please find your hope and keep going, I know life can be hard and I have been there on that road of I cannot do this anymore.


I could have easily succeeded with my suicide attempt and could have easily become a street kid by running away from that horrific home but hope kept me going. I know it’s not easy and didn’t have an option to choose the family, we are born in but think twice, even thrice before throwing in the towel because you have no idea what the future has in store for you.

I still struggle with depression, there are times when that lonely, cold and dark feeling comes back and it is hard to shake off, but I always find something positive in my life to pull me through from the darkness to the light.

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Remedies for Puffy Eyes

I suffer from puffy eyes most mornings and I don’t know why, but I have found some remedies for puffy eyes to take care of the inflammation around my eye when needed. The skin around our eyes is very thin and factors like drinking too much alcohol and not sleeping well show under your eyes and it can be really unattractive.

Here are Four tips on maintain healthy vibrant under eyes.

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Tea Bags
I keep used Rooibos or green tea, tea bags in the freezer, If I am planning to use them, I take them out while I am bathing and then place them on my eyes for five minutes the coldness reduces inflammation.

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Before I go to bed I use Vaseline to remove makeup under my eyes using a cotton wool, this lease my eyes feeling soft and moisturized. Applying Vaseline under your eyes before sleeping also known to reduce the appearance of wrinkles as it locks in the much needed moisture.

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I had no idea about this until last year place your spoons in the freezer for about fifteen minutes and then place them on your puffy eyes until the spoon is warm. I find this method effective and helps with my dark circles under my eyes.

I have dry skin and I grew up using glycerine, apply it on your face at night can make a huge difference in the morning. I have used it as my night cream/lotion, but I have learned that glycerine thickens the under eyes, skin and restores elasticity also makes the wrinkles less visible.

The bottom line is hydration is equal to, less dark circles and puffy eyes and not all of us can afford those expensive high end night creams and eye cream so when money is tight I use the 4 above methods to continue looking well rested and youthful.

What do you use to treat those unwanted puffy eyes?


Monday Motivation

We are on the 7th Monday of the year, time really flies. We don’t need the New Year to make a change rather let us use Monday’s as our new beginning to make a change. We have about 45 Mondays left this year, so you get 45 chances to make a change. You don’t need to start by running, crawling is also a start. Alright, Monday I am ready, let’s do this. Here are some Monday motivation quotes to motivate us.

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The first quote is my favorite because it is try you and I need to make a decision to try in order for us to accomplish anything in life.

Which quote is your favorite?

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School Communicator Application

school communicator

The School Communicator application is the new way that parents can stay in touch with what is happening in their children’s school at their fingertips. The application is easy to use you can download it on your computer/tablet/smartphone too. You only get the news relevant you and your child by personalizing it.

1. You visit schools will appear and choose your child’s school.

2. Choose the device of your choice Windows, Android, Mac or Blackberry then install on your desktop or tablet even smart phone. On the Android tablet it is just under 5MB and so the School Communicator is a light application.

3. A Notice board will appear in your child’s school news.


5. You have the choice to personalize what you see by choosing your Child’s grade and you can choose which categories/channels you want to subscribe to, to avoid clutter.


On the School Communicator there are 6 menu bars and they are as follows News, Calender, Multimedia, Resourses, Homework and Contacts.These categories/channels have information like the Term assessment planners, Excursions reminders, extra-mural program times and days, Exam timetables, daily homework, school events updates for all the grades and contact details for the school.

Any information you share with the School Communicator is absolutely private and is protected by Thawte. The school communicator will automatically update daily so you may want to change your firewall settings to allow it to run and the data usage varies from the updates and the type of content loaded but expect to use typically from 30Mb per month.

I think the School Communicator is an absolutely amazing idea and the schools are keeping up with technology I mean we spend most of our time on our tablets and smartphones at work and home. The schools have found a way to send parents’ messages in other ways than a newsletter. There are about 1757 schools using the d6 School Communicator, I am happy that my child’s school is one of them.
Parents what do you think about the School Communicator?

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Six years olds are self conscious too


As much I would like to protect my six years old daughter from the world or hurt and harsh words its pretty much difficult. So my daughter, she is mixed half Indian and half black which means she won’t have the straight typical Indian hair. Over the weekend I washed her hair and decided to flat iron it (so its straight for now).
Curly Hair
This Monday she back from school and tells me people were telling her she look beautiful with her straight not bushy and curly. I was are you freaking kidding me (please excuse my French) of course I said in my mind not out loud, don’t people know that words are hurtful, even to a six year old I don’t want my daughter growing up thinking that she is not beautiful when her hair is curly. Six years olds are self conscious too and they hang on to every word people say. I would love to see my daughter embracing her versatility because not everyone can do that.

straight hair
I told her that she is beautiful no matter what her hair looks like long or short, curly or straight. I am really disgusted by the society’s perception of what is beautiful now that I have a daughter otherwise I didn’t not care. I am worried about my daughter because she is too sensitive, parenthood is hard already without people who think they can say whatever they want to children without repercussions.

The journey of motherhood continues with all the good and bad it brings:-)

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Self proclaimed rewards card queen

Rewards Cards
Wow, I am a self proclaimed reward card queen I am always looking for a bargain /discount somewhere, everywhere and sometimes I envy how America has lots of coupons while South Africa is trying we need more coupons system, because I just love saving money and making my rand go a little further. I recently found a cash back app that really is amazing.

Snap and Save

Snap and Save is an app you download to your phone and it shows you products which you can get cash back from you booked the products and you have 48 hours to go shopping, after doing your shopping snap a photo of your till slip if its long take multiply shots. You get cash back via a Wicode and you can use at selected major stores like pick n pay,shoprite,checkers to name a few.

Vital club sells their vital products from supplements to snacks and you get 20 % off and discounts on products and you get tips online for absolutely free. Also get free delivery for over R200 orders.
Besides the two online saving options I am also a member of Ebucks, Jet Thank U card, Clicks Club card , Dischem loyalty card, Pick n Pay Smart Shopper, Spur Family Card, My SPAR rewards card and my most favourite and first reward card ever Ster-Kinekor Movie Club and I am also a member of the Woolworths Wrewards

How many rewards cards do you have and which one is your favourite ?

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Another Interesting Taxi Conversation


Wow, today’s journey back home seemed so short because another interesting taxi conversation was sparked it started with this other gentle asking a question. Why is it alright for a street vendor to display his vegetables and fruits to attract customer, but we are disgusted when we see a prostitute showing a lot in public?

There were interesting answers some said that is just not right to display your private parts in public, I say there is no dignified way of advertised yourself as the lady of the night unless you have joined an escort which catered for those professional men or you are a bunny at the playboy mansion and the topic went on to why men prefer to buy prostitutes it is because a she or he is cheap and does not require them to call, spoil them they are easy going than wives or girlfriends at home.So, bottom line is maintaining a wife/girlfriend is more expensive that is why some men to go that other.

Another totally different conversation you know the one you should never talk about Religion yes, they did it, I chose to keep quiet because I know that this one will never end. This other lady who said that she has been speaking in tongues since she was sixteen years old and the other gentleman said that is hpvwash its at a Chinese gong to a Germany and start speaking in Chinese that is how this speaking in tongues thing started.September last year she had a stroke and she could not see and her pastor prayed for her and she is well known and she believes Jesus healed her, the taxi driver asked why do you believe in Jesus so much when Jesus was a made up character and ordinary man than God.

Everyone in the taxi was engaged including the taxi driver it was so loud that everyone was looking at us like we were crazy or something. How the religion/traditional believers topic ended, I don’t know because it was time for me to get off. I laughed and the stress of the day was relieved.
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Do not forget to fetch my daughter

Do not forget to fetch my daughter

Do not forget to fetch my daughter has become my favourite sentence since my daughter started Grade 1 last week I am a walking, breathing alarm clock for her daddy and I want him standing by the gate when she gets out (talk about obsessive mommy).

Also received term 1 calendar I like was excuse who is going to school me or her, because it really feels like it’s back to school for me too, I used to ask my colleague why she has a diary she can just remember it now I fully understand the purpose of writing in a dairy all those activities, parents’ meeting and what not and she is only in Grade 1 goodness.

At the end of the day I am so tired from work, homework and dinner that I will only manage to make her lunch box in the morning and this week is the worst because they are training for sports with the huge competition happening end of the month which means it’s all white shorts, sneakers, and T-shirt I am not looking forward to washing them.

Which genius came up with the idea that kids need to wear white clothes for sports?

Mommies how do you keep sane from all this school thing and then having to write for the blog because I swear I am drowning I try to work on my blog over the weekend, but with the chores by the time I remember its Sunday evening time to get ready for Monday.

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