The Sex Talk Struggle for Black Parents

The Sex Talk Struggle for Black Parents

I say the sex talk struggle for black parents because I will be addressing this from my experience and from what I have seen in the black communities and what I have heard from the parents.

Earlier this week I was on the line to take a taxi to work and I realised that even in this day and age black parents do not talk to their children about sex,condoms and contraception.

This other lady said that one of her neighbours children is doing life orientation in action and disrespecting his mother. I said that it is because you don’t have the talk with us about sex and explain that if you do this and that you will get pregnant and or get a girl pregnant.

Their answer was that is how it is and it’s how they were raised.

This really got me thinking if our own parents do not talk to us about such important things the rate of teenage pregnancy still go up and number of dropouts will also rise.

How will this change us escape poverty because come on, let’s face it, not everyone is gifted to be a brilliant business entrepreneur without proper education.

So parents, they are setting us up for failure, and they expect teenagers not to be sexual active.

My parents never spoke to me about sex and contraceptives,I didn’t even know what was a morning after pill until after I had my daughter that is at the age of 24 years old.

Our black parents need to talk to us more and be more open with us about such topics not wait for the schools to teach us about sex.Then lack of information  leads to experimentation and most of the time teenage pregnancy.

I am not saying that other races do not have teenager pregnancy issues like in the black communities.We need to educate our children about pregnancy, HIV/Aids risks, condoms and contraceptive.

Prevention is better than cure remember and stop making sex Taboo subject and stop thinking that if you talk to them about sex they will go out and have.

I really hope that with time the sex talk struggle for black parents will improve for the better.

I am interested to know how does the sex and contraceptive talk differ with every race?

The PediaSure Complete Educational Breakfast

PediaSure Complete

I had the pleasure to attend The PediaSure Complete Educational Breakfast hosted by PediaSure Complete it was really educational. When I received the invite I had no idea what is PediaSure Complete and I turned to google to see if I would be interested well me being a mommy, I am interested in anything that talks about the development of a child.

I was so shocked to learn that this product has been in the market for a very long time and I have only come to know about it just last week. My daughter has been struggling with weight since she stopped breastfeeding and she is one picky eater too and she hates her vegetables like hate them so much that I have resorted to blending them to trick her.

The PediaSure Complete slogan is growing in confidence and I believe that this product really gives us parents the confidence about our fussy eater’s development. Did you know that in the world between 40-60 % of the parent’s report experiencing feeding difficulties with their children?
PediaSure Complete

So if you have a fussy eater, don’t feel guilty because you are not alone. There are other options that can insure that your children get the minerals and vitamin they need to grow and develop according to their age like, The PediaSure Complete it’s easy to make and also contains  and pro biotics, 16 essential vitamins and minerals as well as Omega 3 fatty acids. It is suitable for children from the age of three to thirteen and comes in yummy child approved flavours, Vanilla or Chocolate (My daughter loves the Vanilla). Only two servings of the PediaSure Complete daily are enough to improve your children’s health.

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Signs that Abeerah is a fussy eater

  • Rather eat plain rice than have a plate of food with vegetables
  • Sleeps without eating if there are vegetables in her plate
  • When she sees me cooking vegetables she would want to bed early or fake not feeling well
  • Told me to my face, she hates vegetables
  • She would rather eat cereal all the time breakfast, lunch, supper


My above opinions and comments about PediaSure Complete they do not replace any professional advice from your pediatrician.

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Things I love about Technology


www.ferocioushaven.comTechnology can be really scary, especially if you watch CSI: Cyber I am telling you that show can make you go back to the dark ages because of people who abuse Technology. The truth is technology is not bad, it’s the people, yes us people. Today I will be sharing with you the things I love about Technology.

  1. Directions: I love technology because the google maps help me find a place every easily I have studied Geography in school, but believe me that I cannot read a map to save my life.
  1. . Studying and Educational Apps:  Just last night I needed to hear a pronunciation fora Pet in Afrikaans so if it was not for google and educational apps where will I be. Technology has also helped me to sort it a number line for a Grade 1 homework (Am I that old that I cannot remember how to do Maths using a number line?)
  1. Self-Diagnosis, feeling sick in the middle of the night and I can just search the symptoms and alternative remedies while waiting for the morning to come so that I can go see a doctor.  The Technology works a first aid for me because if it’s none life threatening I am not in the mood to rush to the ER at 1 am in the morning.
  1. Customer Service, especially for the companies that use social media. I find that technology has improved how companies handle customer complaints most of them, they are quick and efficient cutting out the costs of a telephone call.

Share with me what you love about technology?

The Education Struggle for Refugees

I am a strong believer that every child needs some kind of education irrespective of their background but especially refugees. It saddens me when I see such a huge number of children not receiving education. The education struggle for refugees is real according to there are about 3 million children who do not receive education because of the displacements caused by war, politics and greed.

Lack of education has real consequences and especially for girls because they are forced into child marriages at a young in order to survive even just for a plate of food and a roof over their heads.Lack of education forces small children to start working at an early age for a plate of food its exploitation after exploitation with no hope of the circle ending.

I know there is only little that we can do and we cannot end all the suffering and problems facing us in this world, but organizations like they only ask for your signature to make a difference in the lives of refugee children.

May you kindly please join me in helping in collecting enough names for them, to present the education problems to our leaders who will be meeting in New York this September to discuss the global refugee crisis to also add education to their list of concerns.

Please CLICK HERE to sign the petition to help the refugee children to get the education they deserve. Education presents the opportunity of a better future and life, let us break the chain of illiteracy and poverty.

The Education Struggle for Refugees


The education struggle for refugees is real. Education will elevate poverty and alleviation of poverty presents a better tomorrow.

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State Of Numbness

State of numbness

Wow, l was in a state of numbness in the past few months.The state of numbness is when you don’t feel like doing anything and time is moving in slow motion yet so fast. Yes, when you are depressed time moves super quick before you know it 6 months had passed just like that and you won’t get it back.

Damn being an adult is hard, I wish I could be a little kid right, even though life was not rosy in my childhood sure makes adulthood look like hell. Just the other day it got me thinking do I have daddy issues.You know those roles on TV where you see women who are broken and they do different things to fill an unfillable void “daddy issues”.

That is when I got my aha moment there is no way I am going to be that weak, broken woman, it’s hard enough being a woman and a mother to a daughter. At least I have to make it for my daughter’s sake, I am her role model if I fall apart in front of her. Who will teach her to be a strong woman?

I realized that you can overcome the state of numbness, when you hang on to that glimpse of light at the end of the dark long tunnel of depression. I want my daughter to appreciate being a child because adulthood is not for the weak and faint heart.

Life is hard but we always have to get up regardless of the situation.

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The Bad Touch Talk With My Daughter

the bad touch talk with my daughter

I recently had the bad touch talk with my daughter because I believed that is was time for her to learn the difference and because she is an overly friendly person. I am a fan of Law and Order: SUV. I have seen enough to understand that an adult or child older than my daughter have the power to pursue my daughter to keep a secret and she won’t know if that is wrong because I as the parent I would have never spoken to hear about what is bad and what is good.

I am glad to say the first my daughter learned was that secrets are bad, but I noticed that when she was playing with friends and she came back upset when I asked her what happened, she would refuse to tell me. I had to get it out of her that is why I decided to have the talk with her so that she knows that I am her safe haven and she can tell me anything.

The Bad Touch Talk With My Daughter

1. No one is supposed to touch her private parts in a funny way.
2. Touch her bum and her breasts
3. No one is supposed to kiss her like husband and wife kiss it is wrong
4. When someone touches her in the wrong way she has the right to scream NO
5. I put the talk in play I touch her bum in an uncomfortable way and she told me that is wrong I must stop it.
6. She can tell on anyone touching her the bad way could her teacher, transport driver, uncle, aunt, parents (her father and I) and even her friends.
7. That her body belongs to her and no one else
8. If someone asks her to touch their private parts she must say no
9. It is never her fault that the other person behaved badly towards her.

We need to start child sexual awareness at an early age by instilling the power of No and the power of knowledge in our children. Besides, most of the sexual offenders they are the people that our children know and trust from our family members, friends and neighbours. It is always some close to us who may cause harm to our children.

They are lots of platforms online that can help us parents in talking to our children about sexual abuse and there are also activities you can play with them to make the learning less intense and more fun.

The bad touch talk with my daughter


Have you spoken to your son or daughter about the bad touch and how did it go?

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Other Amazing Uses of Bicarbonate of Soda

Other uses of bicarbonate of soda

What else do you use bicarbonate of soda? This multitasking powder really has some other amazing uses besides baking and adding to tribe (Mogodu) to help it to cook faster.

Bicarbonate of Soda has amazing properties like antibacterial, antifungal, antiseptic and anti-flammatory. Today I will be talking about other amazing uses of bicarbonate of soda that I am really aware of and have worked for me.

Drain Unclogger

Yes, I learned this from my mother bicarbonate of soda is an amazing drain unclogger. Just put a tablespoon of bicarbonate of soda in the drain followed by a cup of vinegar and this combination will eat away whatever is blocking your drain and save you some money.

Bicarbonate of soda is also good for cleaning around the house, especially showers, sinks and it works like a disinfectant on the plus side its Eco friendly.

Pimple Buster

I am a fan of the toothpaste when it comes to drying out pimplbu, but I have also learned that making a mixture of one teaspoon of bicarbonate of soda mix with water to make a paste can also dry out the pimples and very fast too.

Stomach Ache Soother

The quickest way to clam your stomach ache is to put a tip of the teaspoon of bicarbonate of soda in the palm of your hand lick it and drink some water. You will get relief in under a minute.


I am an excessive sweater during the summer and its embarrassing, so I put the mixture of bicarbonate of soda under my armpits for 25 to 30 minutes and then wash it off.
My sweating has reduced it is also good with controlling odor and lighten dark underarms.

Shoes Ordour

Sneakers and closed shoes tend to smell to prevent this just sprinkle bicarbonate of soda once in a while to prevent such and keep your wardrobe smelling ffresh

Here are some other amazing uses of bicornated of soda I heard people say helps with indigestion,heartburn, ulcers and as a teeth whitener to name a few.

Wanderlust Tag

Wanderlust tag

I was tagged by the awesome Sara from in the wanderlust tag. Being a travel addict, I couldn’t resist completing it of course.

So here goes,

1.Your most treasured passport stamp?

The only stamp that I have (hahahaha) North America Orlando Florida, planning to collect more stamps in the near future.

2.Can you recite your passport # (number) from memory if asked?

Oh wow you are making me feel bad, I don’t know it at all. (Feeling embarrassed)

3.Preferred method of travel: planes, trains or automobiles?

If it was possible to travel overseas with trains, I would be my first option. I really hate flying it really cold up there.

4.Top 3 travel items?

Visa Card

5.Hostel or hotel?

I love my privacy I prefer hotels from 4 star upwards. I need to feel home away from home and be able to sleep peacefully at night.

6.Are you a repeat visitor or do you explore new places?

I am a new visitor, but I would love to visit many more places as possible, preferably every country that my South African passport allows me to visit without a visa.

7.Do you read up on your destination (culture, history, safety) or do you wing it?

Yes, I read a lot about my visit to Orlando, Florida I was obsessed daily. I will also read for my future travels

8. Favourite travel websites?

I use Travelstart to find the best affordable flights and I recently fell in love with because you can book without paying a deposit and still cancel to the very last minute. TripAdvisor I love it for reading other traveler reviews about certain things to know what I am getting myself into.

9.Where would you recommend a friend to visit? Name city & why.

Being that I have only visited one place so far, I cannot currently recommend a city maybe in the next two years. (Fingers crossed)

10.You’re leaving tomorrow, money is no option, where are you going?

Oh my goodness Asia I love countries that have are exotic like Malaysia, Hong Kong, India, I love their interesting food, fashion and way of life.
I dream about visiting Turkey I just love the architecture it’s really interesting and then be off to Paris, Greece, Tahiti, Hawaii (Aloha) and oh my gosh I must see Rome.

Basically I want to go everywhere.

I tag the following bloggers to add fuel to my (wanderlust) fire:

Lindi from A well-heeled woman

Zaahirah from Complete Disbelief

My experience flying Emirates


In march when we decided to take a family vacation to the US Orlando Florida, we browsed through airlines’ websites and we initially decided to fly Emirates. The prices were too high at that time and because the Rand was really weak, too, going to Orlando, Florida the ticket prices would give anyone a heart attack New York was cheap but accommodation was expensive and accommodation in Florida was cheaper.

My experience flying Emirates well hubby always uses them so it was my daughter and my first time. The staff was very welcoming all smiles, poised and well mannered. I love their uniforms really beautiful and clean. My daughter was entertained all the way from our location to our destination and back. I loved the fun pack they gave her about animals and countries and most importantly, there was a wide selection of animation and the little ones got served first.


Airplane food is horrible they all tasted the same and I was disappointed with their breakfast because it was all kinds of eggs, I do not eat eggs so breakfast was a bit difficult for me (Please consider other options). The menu was crisp and elegant.
The economy seats they were too close to each other and by the time I arrived, my back was hurting, I don’t know how people sleep, coming was better because the plane was not full so I asked to sit on the empty seats so that I can lay down I was sick chest infection. (Not a nice way to end an amazing trip).

All in all, I will fly Emirates again and I pray for business class seats they are so spacious and they looked so comfortable and soft. Flying Emirates were really a life changing experience me and my daughter and I am really thankful the memory cards we got with each flight the friendly flight attendants took family photos for our daughter to cherish the experience forever.

What is your favorite airline and why do you love it?

My Top Facial Home Remedies

home remedies

Green Tea Basin Steam

I love this homemade steamer using my bathroom basin it helps to open up the pores very nicely, so I am never without green tea. Just put boiling water in the basin, put the green tea bags let it soak and then cover your head with a towel for a few minutes then voila your homemade facial steam.

Maize Meal and Turmeric Mask

I use this mixture to exfoliate my skin and then I leave on and let it dry, the maize meal is natural not added chemicals and does not dry out the skin and the turmeric it helps with clearing my acne scars and helps with reducing fine lines and helps with dark circles under the eyes. I normally put a tablespoon of maize meal, tip of the teaspoon turmeric and drops of olive oil because I have dry skin leave it on for a few minutes, rinse off with lukewarm water.


This is my favorite I always use toothpaste on my pimples over night because it helps them to dry out and heal faster.

Calamine Lotion

Calamine because also helps to dry out acne and pimples. Also lightens dark blemishes left by pimples as well as improving my skin texture, I normally leave it overnight and it has improved the visibility of my scars cause of acne.

Well, there are my top facial home remedies I swear by and they really work for me and I also love that they are easy to find, always in my cabinet or cupboard and most importantly they are very affordable. Skin care should not always break the bank simple products also work too.

What is your favorite facial home remedy you can’t leave without?

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