The Bad Touch Talk With My Daughter

the bad touch talk with my daughter

I recently had the bad touch talk with my daughter because I believed that is was time for her to learn the difference and because she is an overly friendly person. I am a fan of Law and Order: SUV. I have seen enough to understand that an adult or child older than my daughter have the power to pursue my daughter to keep a secret and she won’t know if that is wrong because I as the parent I would have never spoken to hear about what is bad and what is good.

I am glad to say the first my daughter learned was that secrets are bad, but I noticed that when she was playing with friends and she came back upset when I asked her what happened, she would refuse to tell me. I had to get it out of her that is why I decided to have the talk with her so that she knows that I am her safe haven and she can tell me anything.

The Bad Touch Talk With My Daughter

1. No one is supposed to touch her private parts in a funny way.
2. Touch her bum and her breasts
3. No one is supposed to kiss her like husband and wife kiss it is wrong
4. When someone touches her in the wrong way she has the right to scream NO
5. I put the talk in play I touch her bum in an uncomfortable way and she told me that is wrong I must stop it.
6. She can tell on anyone touching her the bad way could her teacher, transport driver, uncle, aunt, parents (her father and I) and even her friends.
7. That her body belongs to her and no one else
8. If someone asks her to touch their private parts she must say no
9. It is never her fault that the other person behaved badly towards her.

We need to start child sexual awareness at an early age by instilling the power of No and the power of knowledge in our children. Besides, most of the sexual offenders they are the people that our children know and trust from our family members, friends and neighbours. It is always some close to us who may cause harm to our children.

They are lots of platforms online that can help us parents in talking to our children about sexual abuse and there are also activities you can play with them to make the learning less intense and more fun.

The bad touch talk with my daughter

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Have you spoken to your son or daughter about the bad touch and how did it go?

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Other Amazing Uses of Bicarbonate of Soda

Other uses of bicarbonate of soda

What else do you use bicarbonate of soda? This multitasking powder really has some other amazing uses besides baking and adding to tribe (Mogodu) to help it to cook faster.

Bicarbonate of Soda has amazing properties like antibacterial, antifungal, antiseptic and anti-flammatory. Today I will be talking about other amazing uses of bicarbonate of soda that I am really aware of and have worked for me.

Drain Unclogger

Yes, I learned this from my mother bicarbonate of soda is an amazing drain unclogger. Just put a tablespoon of bicarbonate of soda in the drain followed by a cup of vinegar and this combination will eat away whatever is blocking your drain and save you some money.

Bicarbonate of soda is also good for cleaning around the house, especially showers, sinks and it works like a disinfectant on the plus side its Eco friendly.

Pimple Buster

I am a fan of the toothpaste when it comes to drying out pimplbu, but I have also learned that making a mixture of one teaspoon of bicarbonate of soda mix with water to make a paste can also dry out the pimples and very fast too.

Stomach Ache Soother

The quickest way to clam your stomach ache is to put a tip of the teaspoon of bicarbonate of soda in the palm of your hand lick it and drink some water. You will get relief in under a minute.

ControlSweating

I am an excessive sweater during the summer and its embarrassing, so I put the mixture of bicarbonate of soda under my armpits for 25 to 30 minutes and then wash it off.
My sweating has reduced it is also good with controlling odor and lighten dark underarms.

Shoes Ordour

Sneakers and closed shoes tend to smell to prevent this just sprinkle bicarbonate of soda once in a while to prevent such and keep your wardrobe smelling ffresh

Here are some other amazing uses of bicornated of soda I heard people say helps with indigestion,heartburn, ulcers and as a teeth whitener to name a few.

Wanderlust Tag

Wanderlust tag

I was tagged by the awesome Sara from inafricaandbeyond.com in the wanderlust tag. Being a travel addict, I couldn’t resist completing it of course.

So here goes,

1.Your most treasured passport stamp?

The only stamp that I have (hahahaha) North America Orlando Florida, planning to collect more stamps in the near future.

2.Can you recite your passport # (number) from memory if asked?

Oh wow you are making me feel bad, I don’t know it at all. (Feeling embarrassed)

3.Preferred method of travel: planes, trains or automobiles?

If it was possible to travel overseas with trains, I would be my first option. I really hate flying it really cold up there.

4.Top 3 travel items?

Phone
Visa Card
Camera

5.Hostel or hotel?

I love my privacy I prefer hotels from 4 star upwards. I need to feel home away from home and be able to sleep peacefully at night.

6.Are you a repeat visitor or do you explore new places?

I am a new visitor, but I would love to visit many more places as possible, preferably every country that my South African passport allows me to visit without a visa.

7.Do you read up on your destination (culture, history, safety) or do you wing it?

Yes, I read a lot about my visit to Orlando, Florida I was obsessed daily. I will also read for my future travels

8. Favourite travel websites?

I use Travelstart to find the best affordable flights and I recently fell in love with Booking.com because you can book without paying a deposit and still cancel to the very last minute. TripAdvisor I love it for reading other traveler reviews about certain things to know what I am getting myself into.

9.Where would you recommend a friend to visit? Name city & why.

Being that I have only visited one place so far, I cannot currently recommend a city maybe in the next two years. (Fingers crossed)

10.You’re leaving tomorrow, money is no option, where are you going?

Oh my goodness Asia I love countries that have are exotic like Malaysia, Hong Kong, India, I love their interesting food, fashion and way of life.
I dream about visiting Turkey I just love the architecture it’s really interesting and then be off to Paris, Greece, Tahiti, Hawaii (Aloha) and oh my gosh I must see Rome.

Basically I want to go everywhere.

I tag the following bloggers to add fuel to my (wanderlust) fire:

Lindi from A well-heeled woman

Zaahirah from Complete Disbelief

My experience flying Emirates

Source: www.emirates.com
Source: www.emirates.com

In march when we decided to take a family vacation to the US Orlando Florida, we browsed through airlines’ websites and we initially decided to fly Emirates. The prices were too high at that time and because the Rand was really weak, too, going to Orlando, Florida the ticket prices would give anyone a heart attack New York was cheap but accommodation was expensive and accommodation in Florida was cheaper.

My experience flying Emirates well hubby always uses them so it was my daughter and my first time. The staff was very welcoming all smiles, poised and well mannered. I love their uniforms really beautiful and clean. My daughter was entertained all the way from our location to our destination and back. I loved the fun pack they gave her about animals and countries and most importantly, there was a wide selection of animation and the little ones got served first.

Source: www.emirates.com
Source: www.emirates.com

Airplane food is horrible they all tasted the same and I was disappointed with their breakfast because it was all kinds of eggs, I do not eat eggs so breakfast was a bit difficult for me (Please consider other options). The menu was crisp and elegant.
The economy seats they were too close to each other and by the time I arrived, my back was hurting, I don’t know how people sleep, coming was better because the plane was not full so I asked to sit on the empty seats so that I can lay down I was sick chest infection. (Not a nice way to end an amazing trip).

All in all, I will fly Emirates again and I pray for business class seats they are so spacious and they looked so comfortable and soft. Flying Emirates were really a life changing experience me and my daughter and I am really thankful the memory cards we got with each flight the friendly flight attendants took family photos for our daughter to cherish the experience forever.

What is your favorite airline and why do you love it?

My Top Facial Home Remedies

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Green Tea Basin Steam

I love this homemade steamer using my bathroom basin it helps to open up the pores very nicely, so I am never without green tea. Just put boiling water in the basin, put the green tea bags let it soak and then cover your head with a towel for a few minutes then voila your homemade facial steam.

Maize Meal and Turmeric Mask

I use this mixture to exfoliate my skin and then I leave on and let it dry, the maize meal is natural not added chemicals and does not dry out the skin and the turmeric it helps with clearing my acne scars and helps with reducing fine lines and helps with dark circles under the eyes. I normally put a tablespoon of maize meal, tip of the teaspoon turmeric and drops of olive oil because I have dry skin leave it on for a few minutes, rinse off with lukewarm water.

Toothpaste

This is my favorite I always use toothpaste on my pimples over night because it helps them to dry out and heal faster.

Calamine Lotion

Calamine because also helps to dry out acne and pimples. Also lightens dark blemishes left by pimples as well as improving my skin texture, I normally leave it overnight and it has improved the visibility of my scars cause of acne.

Well, there are my top facial home remedies I swear by and they really work for me and I also love that they are easy to find, always in my cabinet or cupboard and most importantly they are very affordable. Skin care should not always break the bank simple products also work too.

What is your favorite facial home remedy you can’t leave without?

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Snowflake Red Velvet Cupcakes

Ferocious Red velvet cupcakes

My daughter and I we got busy during Youth Day we made Snowflake red velvet cupcakes, we initially went to Pick n Pay to get icing and cupcake cups, but I found an amazing product from Snowflake treats it had everything we needed and it was even affordable.

Red velvet cupcakes
Snowflakes treats includes:
500g Cupcake Mix
300g Icing Mix
12 paper cups
10g Sprinkles
The package makes 12 large cupcakes or one double layered cake, the box has instructions about making cupcakes and also the butter icing, its pretty much straight forward. Extra ingredients you will need are are:
2 large eggs
125 ml cooking oil
200ml water
150g butter or baking margarine
30ml milk
Salton Elite

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Since I live in a flat and I don’t have a big stove with an oven so I used my mini gadget I bought online few months back the Salton Elite Cupcake Marker, makes 8 cupcakes, it’s easy to store and clean because it has a nonstick coating. Not only does it make cupcakes you can use it to make muffins and mini pies pretty handy.

Everything worked out the cupcakes came out perfectly and they put a smile on my daughter’s face what more can a mom ask for.

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I love My Country South Africa

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South Africa has problems and it’s not perfect, but it’s better than most countries in the world and as a woman I am lucky to have been born in South Africa and I am proud to have given birth to my daughter in this country.

Women of South Africa have a rich story our ancestors fought for our rights and because of them, I am able to type this blog post right now. There are countries where women are oppressed and not given the opportunity to study further or even study once they reach a certain age, they are forced into arranged marriages countries like Bangladesh, Pakistan and India to name a few. In those countries a woman’s life does not matter, and they have no say unless they are lucky to have parents who want a better future but it’s unlikely.

I love my country South Africa because as a woman I have the right to education and a better life, I have the right to marry whomever I want to marry if I want to get married, it’s not forced down on me as a way of life and I love my country South Africa because a woman’s life matters.

Imagine living in a country where you are not allowed to open a bank account, drive a car, trying clothes when shopping because you are a woman. There are even countries that still discriminate against women and men deem themselves superior to woman for different self-serving reasons it is truly disgusting that another human can decide how you live your life just because you are a WOMAN. A woman’s job is not to get married, have children and be a lifetime maid for the mother in law it’s really appalling what some women go through.

love my country South Africa because I have the right to be human and be free to do whatever and be anything. Yes, we do have huge problems as a nation such as poverty, racism and crime to name a few, but as a woman I am glad to be South African.

Thank you to the 20 000 women who marched to the Union Building in Pretoria in 1956, thank you for paving the way me and for giving me the chance to be proud to have a daughter in South Africa.

We are women from every part of South Africa.
We are women of every race, we come from the cities and the towns, from the reserves and the villages.
We come as women united in our purpose to save the African women from the degradation of passes…
In the name of women of South Africa, we say to you, each one of us, African, European, Indian, Coloured, that we are opposed to the pass system. We voters and vote less, call upon your Government not to issue passes to African women.
We shall not rest until ALL pass laws and all forms of permits restricting our freedom have been abolished.
We shall not rest until we have won for our children their fundamental rights of freedom, justice, and security.

– Taken from a Petition presented to the Prime Minister on 9 August 1956.

What makes you proud to be a woman in your country?

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Half Way Through Twenty Sixteen

Half way throughTwenty Sixteen

Oh my goodness, can you believe it, we are half way through twenty sixteen, what started as a good year for me turned upside down my faith has been tested and still is.

My daughter started school this year and it has been difficult like hell having to include homework time, lunch box and school uniform preparation time in our daily routine has been a bloody nightmare. I seriously do not remember my mother working like this when I started school and also do not remember having so much homework. I have also realized that you, the parent become the teacher and the teacher they are just overseers I am so angry that I pay school fees and I have to teach my daughter. Just last week I downloaded and Afrikaans alphabet up for her to learn them because I do not know how to pronounce them.

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I travelled overseas to North America it, I finally got to use my passport as my first one expired without leaving the country. This trip has inspired me to see the world more, discover and make new memories I cannot wait for my next trip and I will start with countries that South Africa is visa exempt first.

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I finally registered to further my education I cannot wait to start I don’t know how I will cope, but hell I will have too, because knowledge is power and I need my daughter growing up knowing that education is important and I want to lead my example to motivate her to stand on her two feet and do it for herself and never depend on a man to survive.

One wise lady told me that life is too short to be terribly unhappy and I am going to live my life by that and this too shall pass. I will find peace and calmness again in my life and it is not over until it’s really over.

How has 2016 been for you so far?

WHO IS MOIPONE?

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Who is Moipone? I find myself asking myself this question Who Am I? Well, I am a thirty-year-old woman, a mother to the most adorable seven-year-old girl. What do I stand for? I really don’t know I just realized that I am a people pleaser never really spoke my mind and always worried what I say will hurt the next person.

I have lived my life pleasing my family trying to live up to this pedestal that they have put me on “The good Girl” pedestal let me tell you it is really exhausting. I wanted a tattoo, but know the man in my life things is evil like seriously, it’s my body or did I give up me for our and come to think about it, I never had a say in what he wanted to do in his life even if I said no he did it anyway.

I wanted to travel, but hey my mother thought differently, hence why I am still in South Africa. I wanted to study drama and my parents told me there is no money in Arts in South Africa and we will not pay for you to study it, I ended up doing another course which I loved too.
The question is who is Moipone? What do I stand for? What do I believe in? That is the big three questions as I try to discover myself at thirty years old. I am a creative soul feeling caged in the ideals of what people in my life think I should be and today right now I am sick and tired.

I am going to get that tattoo or two (ha-ha), I am going to stop letting people decide for me, hell I am going to try sushi. I am going to really try to see people for what they really are, because my weakness is that I am naïve and always try to see the best in people even when they are just straight cruel and evil.

I have been so consumed by stress caused by other people in my life that I have forgotten how much I loved writing poetry, I forgot how to be me. The shy girl who loved to laugh, smile and love. The girl who loved going to the movies and experience the thrill of seeing amazing movies on the big screen. I forgot to dance in my underwear and sing out loud with my horrible voice.

Be The Change You Wish to See in The World
Gandhi

I will be the change I want to see in my life before I can take on the world. Have you ever lost yourself and your voice and how did you overcome it?

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5 Busy Moms Secrets for Managing a Super Organized Home

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AMY REEVES

contemporary / very well decorated / show home living room
contemporary / very well decorated / show home living room

Home organization always seems like an endless task. When you have a full-time job, kids to look after as well as a number of tasks to do after work, you never have enough time to maintain the home in a great condition. However, it turns out that there is a way to keep your home super organized without feeling exhausted. After all, everyone of us has 24 hours to do the tasks they are supposed to, so what deters you from being as organized as those people you secretly envy because of their ability to handle all tasks in their list. Here are a few tricks that can help you stay organized and balance between work, kids and home cleaning tasks.

To-do lists actually help. Having a plan what you are supposed to do on the next day will save you a lot of time. So, make a list of the tasks you have to accomplish throughout the day instead of trying to remember them as something will probably slip out.
If you spend a lot of time at the office instead of being at home with your kids, think about optimizing the time for completing your tasks. Prioritize, establish a routine and if a certain project is due today, do not postpone its completion for the next day. Allowing a lot of stuff to pile up will only make matters worse.

Even if you are enthusiastic about balancing between work and home duties, you should definitely need the help of the other family members. If everyone makes efforts towards keeping the house neat, the home cleaning and organization tasks will be less tiresome and time-consuming. You can even turn the cleaning and tidying up into a game and engage your kids. Make a calendar that shows the house cleaning tasks each of the family members is supposed to handle for the week/ month.

The more spacious your house is, the more time for cleaning and maintenance it requires. Of course, spending the entire weekend scrubbing and sanitizing instead of enjoying quality time with your family does not sound like the best idea ever. So the time-consuming cleaning chores might be split up into several more manageable tasks. For example, Tenancy Cleaning London suggests to set aside 20 minutes after work to tidy up the living room and another 15 minutes in the morning to fold the clothes or iron them, etc.

When you go through a super busy week, you are snowed under with work and the deadline of two important projects is approaching, you might find yourself overwhelmed and unable to deal with all tasks, requiring your attention. One of the most useful things you can do to remedy the situation is to keep both your desk and your home organized. Keep the unnecessary clutter to the minimum and put everything back in place when you are done using it. This way, the area will not only look neat, but you will also save time and find the desired item right away.

The best way to get the things done and avoid unnecessary hassle is by establishing a routine and sticking to it. It goes without saying that finding the happy medium between work and home duties can sometimes be really difficult. In this case, following your schedule is essential for the successful completion of all challenges during the day. Sometimes, the small changes make a big difference. Don’t shy away from experimenting and you will eventually adjust your working schedule so that it does not interfere with your personal affairs and vice versa.

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